Change is inevitable and unstoppable, like a puffball through pavement, like the process of birth, so why is change so hard? Because we resist it, because we like what we’re used to and don’t want to get used to something else. But we must.And we do. Resistance, as they say, is useless.
The only person you can change is yourself. When you make the effort to change (and it is an effort), then those around you have the opportunity to change with you. They may choose not to, and they may send you urgent change back!” messages, because they don’t like change. Especially in someone as familiar and predictable as you have been up to now.
If you are lucky, however, your nearest and dearest may rise to the challenge, choose to change along with you, and so set off on a new journey into an ever-changing landscape.
Anxiety is tough, and we prefer to avoid it.Excitement is something we seek. Both are brought on in response to the new and unfamiliar. So, what’e the difference? Assuming there is no actual danger to justify anxiety, maybe the only difference is how we name the experience to ourselves?
If we are in the habit of making a certain choice, then we don’t even know we’ve made one. It just seems to happen.
Step back from that habitual impulse however, and the flood of cortisol subsides rapidly ( 90 seconds ), allowing you to choose your new response. (I learned this from reading ‘My Stroke of Insight – a brain scientists personal journey’,by Jill Bolte Taylor, Ph.D. She experienced a massive bleed in the left side of her brain, when she was in her thirties, and not only lived, but has written in great detail about the event and it’s aftermath.)